A LITTLE girl is still trying to work out whether to call her step-parent Mum or Dad after the woman became a transgender male, had her breasts removed and grew a beard.
Now the Family Court has ordered that the child, 7, spend Father’s Day, alternate weekends and other times with “Mr Brown”, who had been in a lesbian relationship with her mother.
Mr Brown, who had lived with the mother, the child and her older sibling for almost three years, now lives with another transgender male.
The court heard that as a woman Mr Brown had been in an on-off relationship with the child’s mother and they were together when the little girl was born.
The mother, who already had another child, had travelled overseas and become impregnated by a man of unknown identity during a period of separation, before the couple reunited.
After another brief split, the couple lived together with the two children, and even had a “commitment ceremony”.
But a month later Mr Brown began identifying as transgender and decided to have hormone treatment to prepare for surgery to transition to a man.
The Family Court heard a few months later Mr Brown told the children he was transitioning to male and the couple separated.
The mother and the two children went to live in her parents’ home and initially Mr Brown spent a few nights a week with the children, until the mother reduced that time.
Mr Brown began a relationship with a transgender male and in 2012 changed the name on his birth certificate to a male given name, the court heard.
A month later he underwent “gender affirming surgery” to remove his breasts, the court heard.
Soon after there were consent orders made that the children live with the mother and the child spend two nights a week with Mr Brown.
A family consultant told the court the child said she sometimes called her “Dad”, “Mum”, or a European term for “my Mum” or used Mr Brown’s male name.
She said Mr Brown felt like a father to her.
The court heard the child suffered from anxiety and was stressed by the family situation.
Justice Watts accepted she had a meaningful relationship with her mother and Mr Brown, and made orders allowing him weekend and holiday time with the child.
“I find that it is likely on balance that the child will see (Mr Brown) in the role of parent and because he has a beard she will in her mind probably over time accept him as a “father” or “Dad”, the judge said.
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